Harvesting Happiness Live Interview On Anger, Pleases Listen

Please listen to the Live Interview with Lisa Kamen Interviewing Steven Shaps


“If within silence, that stillness spoke, would you listen with your heart?”

If within silence, that stillness spoke, would you listen with your heart. Would you abide in that home, would you need anything else? Would your true Self not have all of the wanting & all desires, quenched? And not to forget the tendencies, be now replenished? That silence sings the ultimate, the supreme, go within. “I am that.” Steven Shaps

My Wisdom Pages by Steven Shaps


Live Interview with Host Lisa Kamen, Harvesting Happiness.

April 27- wednesday 9am- 10am

please follow link                     http://toginet.com/shows/harvestinghappiness

Anger, “it is not what you think it is”

Lisa Kamen will explore with Steven Shaps Marriage Family Therapist, the nature of Anger, the feelings, the thoughts, reactions as well as productive means to deal with this powerful emotion. Often the very tendency to think about our feelings, that is give meaning and  interpret them can much very stand in our  way. Our desire is to  heal and or let go of this emotional energy and often find ourselves stuck  without solution or a means to sooth the apparent pain we feel.  Of course  this can be the nature of most of our feelings and or thoughts that leads us  to take actions that are not  productive or serves us in optimum ways.

Please join us for a very live discussion


April 27, wednesday 9am -10am

Clinical Issues

If you are experiencing chronic or continued emotional upset, or are having internal conflict which does not seem to go away on its own, you may be experiencing a clinical issue which requires prompt attention.

Some of the issues may include those listed below.

For more information on fees and appointments please call my office at 503.913.7295 Washington and Oregon


Anger & Stress Management
Addictions-Substance Abuse & Dependency
Domestic Abuse or Violence
Gay Lesbian Issues
Life Coaching
Loss or Grief
Relationship issues
Process addictions (codependency, sex addiction, pornography, internet addiction)
Self esteem
Sex Therapy
Trauma and PTSD
Dissociation Disorders
Impulse Control Disorders
Personality Disorders
Thought disorders

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Blue Shield
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Value options

Favorite Links

University of Santa Monica,
School of Spiritual and Counseling Psychology

Body Mind Psychotherapies
Ron Alexander PhD

Dr. Dave Van Nuys

www.mentalhelp.net (The wise council podcast)

Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks

James Swartz Ramji

Swami-Dayananda Saraswati

Arshavidya Gurukulam

Photography and Poetry

Photographs and poetry to come

Anger Management

Please listen to  Steven Shaps MFT on Anger

How Can you release or let go of Angry feelings Safely & Effectively?

First off, Any & All reactions we may feel, or any thought that seems to take our attention off the present moment, appears to us as painful. The feelings tell us that something hurts, Thoughts & Feelings run in tandem, Learning to let the thoughts go will have a direct affect on the feelings, and letting go of the feelings will have a direct affect on thoughts.

Actually as we stop to look, that is pay attention to what is there, just watch, a very interesting thing begins to happen, the so call mind  begins to quiet, the sensations & feelings that we are tempting us to act on begin to dissolve.

We all become frustrated and stressed at times. When that stress leads to uncontrollable anger we are at the greatest risk to hurt ourselves and others. . We do not have to go far to see it or feel it. The physiological and psychological effects can be long lasting without proper support.

How we relate to ourselves and others affects our mental and physical well being. The feelings of anger have more to do with how well we approve or disapprove of ourselves and others   But particularly our relationship to wanting control, seeking approval, and feeling secure and safe.

In fact the more we attempt to figure out the reasons for being upset or angry, the more we can end up in conflict.  We all want to know how to make the pain go way. We usually blame the other person or the circumstance as being the cause.

We cannot control the way life comes to us and when we want control and do not have it, we are really out of control finding it very challenging to let go.  Truly when we do not have control over a situation or want approval or security, we really are in a lacking state of mind and are experiencing feelings that we do not want which may be challenging to dealing with.

It is very natural to be upset or to be disappointed. Yet it does not serve us to push those feelings back down to have them come back and explode when we least expect.

Intense feelings states left alone can be very unhealthy. The thoughts, the feelings, the accompanying sensations affect our mental, emotional and physiological health.

Anger, can also be an unconscious reaction to trauma that occurred at an earlier time in our lives. Some people who have experienced severe trauma establish defense mechanisms to protect themselves from further hurt. These mechanisms can be very resistant to healing unless the energy or trauma is allowed to be released or let go of.

Learning to release our emotions rather than keeping them stuffed begins with a willingness to acknowledge that we have been triggered, or are upset, and are in pain.

In my practice as a Counselor, I teach and lead seminars in Anger and Stress management. I use the skills of Somatics, Mindfulness, meditation, movement, Ericksonian Hypnotherapy, breath, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

If you or a loved one is having a challenge or is seeking support to overcome angry feelings or stress please consider a consultation or contacting me.  Making a decision to support your-self   begins right now.  You are your most valuable asset.

Please See Seminars and Workshop pages for upcoming events.
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“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere; they have lived within each other for ages.” Rumi

What you see in others has more to do with who you are than who other people are.” 
- Epictetus

How we relate to the issue is the issue,” – Dr’s Ron & Mary Hulnick University of Santa Monica, School of Spiritual Psychology.

“Am I blaming the other person because I am confused and lack understanding?”

Why do I continue to judge them and make them wrong?

“Am I really the source of my experience, including my feelings and thoughts”?

All relationships begin and end with ourselves. How we see the issue is always the issue.

Once we begin to ask these questions of ourselves from the intention to learn and a commitment to release our upsets, we set ourselves upon a course to grow and make lasting changes.

Our responses to life’s experiences are based upon conditioned values, beliefs, memories, family history, expectations, desires, and the role models we were presented with as children.

Many of our values and wants are hidden from us until we feel conflict in intimate relationship. They are in our unconscious portions of memory. Sometimes our preferences are in conflict with reality, (the way things are). In those times we can almost with certainty feel upset and be in conflict.

In fact if you are blaming the other person or yourself for the predicament you are in or are stuck, there is an excellent chance you are projecting.  All of which can be very painful if not released responsibly.

Working together we will explore the source of blame, judgment, projections, control, expectation, fear and anger.

Together we will custom design a skill set for staying present, taking responsibility & communicating effectively to produce the best results possible.

You will learn to let go of disapproving thoughts and release emotions that are coming up to be let go of.

One of the greatest values of an intimate relationship is that it brings out into the light all of the hidden parts of us. Those that are dark and those that are light.

In addition intimate relationships that make it their intention to be powerfully conscious will use these energies of light and dark to transform themselves and the ways they relate to themselves and to one another. Ultimately bringing healing and a greater capacity to love, forgive and as well being  present and mindful.

In my work with couples I use Body Mind approaches including the healing of projections, the application of self forgiveness for judgments as well as the effective use of communication, listening, perception checking, and accessing intuition.

If you are interested in finding out more about my work please contact me

503.913.7295 Washington and Oregon


By Steven Shaps, MA MFT

Somatic: Of the body, the physical, of the cells, of an organism, of the outer walls of the body, the body in relationship to the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual states.

Somatic: The body mind in concert with an individual’s developing attention to and awareness for, the subtle physical sensations of the body self.

Awareness to these subtle physical sensations brings moment by moment calmness, healing, and vitality by giving attention to and releasing energy, emotions, and sensations that are seeking release naturally. These moments bring us to wisdom, intuition and natural resources.

With our intention to give Attention, states of awareness move into a peaceful calm and we do not have analyze or give any meaning to what is there.

Energy, or what we call emotions, feelings, even pain, can be considered just that, energy or phenomena seeking release which moves through us.

When the ego self tends to block this natural flow and wants to figure things out, or looks for the reasons for things, the body mind responds in a variety of ways, mostly we experience a lack of energy and unhappiness.

Typically we are more aware of the sensations that arise out of physical pain, hunger, fullness, heaviness, irritation, itching, burning, bites, scrapes, and physical trauma.

Sensations are associated with weight, energy with the foods we eat, aches, pains, soothing touch, pressured touch, limbs touching surfaces, tactile qualities, heat, cold, temperature, the ways we stand or lean, rest, the sensations we feel with the clothes we wear, positions of the spine, the back bone touching, lying down. These are sensations as opposed to feelings or emotions.

The intention here is to welcome our feeling states, say yes to the emotions and the energy we feel and allow it move out and through instead of storing them.

Attention inward provides attunement to what calls us present and to the body mind and it’s many sensations.

Learning to remain present and attentive to the body mind sensations is a means to free ourselves of mental chatter and permits relaxation.

Much of what we feel as pain, anger, fear, disappointment, hurt, is our exasperating attempts to resist the very feelings that seek release.   We do want to be free from the pain and saying yes to what is there begins to bring it up. Typically we think freedom and happiness comes from having that thing or person.

The development of and attention to, the subtle body mind’s physical sensations gives rise to the practice of mindfulness and learning to accept everything that we experience, letting go of disapproval and learning to allow what is present to be released naturally .

The body mind, the body unconscious, the body subconscious, and it’s many manifestations  wants to release what we have been pushing down and is always communicating the subtle physical sensations present.

The body already knows what it needs and it is our real purpose to listen.

Somatic Counseling is the interaction of thoughts, emotions, and sensations on the body mind, the cellular membrane and the gate keepers. Discussing or considering one without the other is incomplete.

Eastern practices and philosophies, have been demonstrating for thousands of years its effectiveness in these domains. New research in mindfulness training, forgiveness, meditation, movement, Yoga, EMDR, breath and somatic therapies are fast becoming applications of choice in the field of therapy and is confirming the effectiveness of ancient approaches. It is not enough to depend on talk therapy. The entire nature of the human individual must be considered as well as all levels of awareness and consciousness.

Somatic Therapy works with a person’s complete experience. Their “problem” beliefs, emotions and body mind subtle physical sensations. This is a Holistic approach for the entire being.

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